Lies

Like really? I know going to have an operation is scare y. I get that. I was going to suggest to hubby that if no one is going to be their for MIL when she gets out of her operation that he take the day off work and be there because their is nothing worse then waking up with no one there, but your eldest will be there (not your husband because he knows less than your children). BUT really going through all your stuff and sorting it out for your children because you are not going to come out of the operation alive is so over dramatic.

You tell 3 of your children that it is just a standard procedure but you carry on like you are! Going to visit everyone before you go because they will never see you again, really. You are either being over dramatic or you are lying about the operation. Which I think you are and so do your children. All besides your eldest who they all know, really knows what is going on. Why would you have an operation to take something out just in case?? Why can't you be honest with ALL your children and husband? They don't know whether to believe you or think its all a lie, there is no trust in your family because you all lie to one another about stupid little things, such as your eldest told James that she will be in hospital for 8 days after operation but don't tell her she told him. Like WTF James see's her every day usually so I am pretty sure he will notice she isn't home. Why is that a secret??  So your 3 other children are all talking to one another discussing what they think is going on because not one of them believe you.

Ha ha

They went to the zoo yesterday and it was cr@p. HA HA that will teach you for being horrible. It saves us from taking the boys too. I said to James yesterday they only went yesterday as they knew I couldn't go. James seems to agree. They thought I would let Zack go though without Ashton yeah right. They could have gone any of the days they are originally arranged but they changed it a few days before as they knew I couldn't go. Well HA HA to you, a 6 hour car trip for cr@p!!!!

So irritating

So I never got back to whine about when SIL was down for Christmas. But they are driving me mad now as they are back down. Way before Christmas they asked if Zack could go to the disney show and then the zoo the next day and for us to take Ash to the zoo with them, it was going to be Zack Christmas present. I got James to ask them more then once what day they are going to the show the Tuesday or Wednesday. There reply was oh we don't know we haven't booked the tickets yet. Since my next obs appointment was booked for the Wednesday I decided to change it since she books out so early. This meant I had to change my next scan appointment to so I change it to the Monday since they were going to the zoo the day after they saw the show and I thought it was safe that way.

NOW today they ask can we go to the zoo on Monday (they never booked the show in the end). I changed my scan to Monday so guess what no we can't go to the zoo. I changed everything around for them which took several calls, you can't ask the Friday afternoon before my scan to change it again it doesn't happen as they book out quickly.

Now I am in two minds about this. I am irritated because the boys miss out on going to the zoo (they are taking my niece and nephew so they can't take my kids not that I would let them anyway especialy sleep over 4 hours away) and I think Ash would love the zoo. Although I am relieved I don't have to spend 2 days with them. But really I change everything around to accommodate them and then the change it 2 days before.

They are gone for now yay!

What a long week and a bit that was when the SIL was down. James and I haven't argued so much in ages and ages then when they were down. Zack was down there all the time ALL day no matter how much we said it was time for him to come home. James won't say no to bad he is to come home because he is to scared of them. I wouldn't have minded if it was a few hours but when it gets 9-12 hours a day it was to much for Zack which meant I had to pick up the pieces. He was emotional (thankfully thats stopped now they have left). But his silly, naughty behaviour hasn't stopped. It makes me so mad. It takes me ages to rope him back in. Some nights they didn't bring him home till 10pm way way to late and past his bed time, they carried him inside so it was obvious he was soooooo tired. They only care about themselves and what they want.

The negative thing is I am pretty sure they will be back this holidays so its all about to come again. *sigh*

Not to plan

I thought this was going to be the best school holidays in a really, really, really long time. MIL went away with one of her daughters for the whole holidays so no worrying about her. Which meant my other SIL wouldn't come up. Oh it was going to be bliss. I was wrong, SIL still came down. It wasn't to bad, Zack stayed there most of the weekend playing with her kids, but without the child abusing MIL there I was ok with it. I even went down there for lunch on the Monday. It reminded me how much I hated it but it also showed SIL, BIL, FIL how I was willing to go down there without MIL there. Actually I have been down there a bit since she has gone, just to prove that point. So it wasn't the bliss I was hoping for but it was still better than any holiday period in a real long time.

I think you were right!

Oh how I love hearing the words "I think you were right". Especially when hearing them coming from your husband. I few weeks ago now I said to James in quite a pissed off tone that his brother is trying to keep you away from us to cause trouble between us again. He said do you think so and I answered "I know so", he piped up and said no I don't think so.

Anyway yesterday we were going down to his parents place to get the trailer when his brother dear rings. Asks what he is doing which James answers I have lots to do around the house and some things for work next week. 10 minutes later he shows up and says I need your help. Now James is stupid because he is to scared to say no to either his mum or brother. So what we were planning to do was put on the back burner. I loaded the kids into the car and was told he will be back before we get home from my parents place for lunch. I get home put the kids to sleep and he still isn't home. I ring him and say I thought you were going to be home before me and he said oh brother wanted me to look at putting an extension on his house (the thing we were doing was in prep to build a verandah on our house and he knows this). When he finally gets home he says to me, you know I think you are right brother does anything to keep me with him and away from you and the kids and the things I need to do. I just said I told you so.

Now I understand and think it is quite fine that he needs to help his brother and I would have been fine with it yesterday, if he hadn't spent the whole day before helping his brother.

Really???

Really my IL's are ridiculous. On the weekend my MIL had to go pick up my SIL's dog to look after. SIL rang James and asked him if he would go down to MIL's place and lift the dog out of the car for her. Now the dog is a boarder collie like the one above and is very old so has to be lifted out. What I don't understand is why she couldn't lift the stupid, child attacking dog out herself. The dog is a kg heavier than Ashton and she lifts him, lighter than Zack and I have seen her lift him so why the hell could she not lift a dog out of a small hatchback car.

Anyway she picked DH up on her way home and took him to her place (at tea time which he was cooking, we were having a bbq) and when he came home he walked in the door and said she is such a so and so B!tch. I said why what happened? He said she went off and was cruel to him about anything that was said. He left in a good mood and came home in a bad mood. She does something nice for her, out of his way which was for a ridiculous reason and she treats him like shit.

A new car

I have wanted a new car since.....well feels like forever but really its been 5-6 years. We have sold my little uni car, James got a ute for work (he was driving my car and I had his car with the kids). I hate his car. Its a rodeo twin cab and while it has lots of room in the back for all the kids stuff, its rough as hell in the back for the kids and its manual which I hate, oh and it is a bit of a dud of a car and has been since we bought it new.

Anyway I have been asking and looking for a car for years, first James said when you get a job, I got a part time then full time and still no car. You see he wants a Prado, I would love a prado BUT it is so out of our price range even second hand. I try to talk him into something we can afford and he won't budge.

Yesterday on our way out o town we drive past a Prado. We decide to pull over and see how much they have on it. I tell James want to bed $38 000- $45 000 and he goes if so it is ours. I thought ok yeah with what money haha. As we pull up the owner who we know (friends brother) came out and told us he was after $30000 for it. Now there isn't a scratch on it and is very well looked after. I think oh I wish but we are like $10000 short still James why do you insist on wishing and hoping on something we can't afford. James is very excited.

The story goes on...James says dad almost bought me a new ute on Thursday for $10000 at an auction, maybe they will lend us the money and we can pay them back. He said especially for a car for you dad would prob lend it (bc he loves me LOL). THEN I have to think hmmmm as much as I would LOVE a new car do I want the whole we own the car (even though they will only own a1/3 of it). Beth really wants to control us I don't know if I want to give her a chance to have something over us. She wants to keep our car and get rid of an older car they have.

BUT I want to try for our next baby and we need a car that can fit 3 car seats across the back and our current car doesn't, but like I keep telling James why cant we just get a car we can afford.

Why Lie???

I don't get it why lie about things? MIL tells us so many things that both James and I don't believe and know she is lying about after Zack has been down there. Oh he is never naughty down here, he is no problems at all, but then they tell us something to completely show that he was naughty and done something he shouldn't have, like push his cousin or swearing.

The best one is that he always eats lots when down there especially his veges. HAHAHAHA!!! Tonight we got told he ate a huge plate of veges and some meat, but when he gets home he brings me some ham and asks for some, I give him a plate full, he eats it all then he asks me for some spaghetti and chips. For a child that didn't stop eating sure had a big meal when he got home. Especially since when I use to go down there he would NEVER eat any of the food MIL cooked for him, he just didn't like it, especially the veges.

speechless....You're a great parent!!!

I was talking to my niece yesterday and she told me something I still am having trouble believing. My BIL (nieces father, James brother) had rang them wanting them to come to his house for the day of one of my nieces birthday, to go out for lunch. When they said no we are going to Newcastle he went off. He called his eldest daughter a slag, his youngest daughter an asshole and then went on about there mother (his ex wife) and his ex wifes family. A sorry you NEVER EVER call your children names like this. No wonder they want nothing to do with him.

She said he went on about them having another family too. She told him it doesn't feel like it. They like to put them and the other side of there family down too. MIL has always called there other nan etc. names. Any decent human being knows you shouldn't/don't do this. You especially don't do it to the children. It is the number one rule in a divorce to not put the other parent etc down. BUT TO ACTUALLY PUT YOUR OWN CHILD DOWN is DISGUSTING. Really makes me want to have nothing to do with him. It really disgusts me!!! No wonder I am the only one in this family they will talk with (oh and don't worry it pisses MIL off). They know I will back there mother up any day. I miss spending time with there mother and them, she was the only thing that kept me sane while putting up with the bad family.

Anyway I am taking the boys up tomorrow to see them for my nieces birthday. James won't like it because it means I will talk to Fiona, but I don't care. He says I can go see her but for me not to do it behind his back, like he can tell me what to do HA! HA! I think it depends on his mood on how he will take it, but I am going no matter what. I can't wait to see them, I haven't seen them since Christmas and I haven't seen there mother in much longer.

What a lovely caring family they are.

Gee James' family are so caring to each other. James has been telling me in the last few months about how his sister and brother are worried about what they are getting when there parents die. They are acting like it is going to happen soon. Where I wouldn't mind, I can't believe there own kids are thinking about it. I don't ever want to think about my parents dying.

SIL was pissed that BIL was getting a new trailer for his truck (he is in business with his parents) why? well because his parents where buying it from there money so BIL ex-wife can't get anything from it (as property etc hasn't been finalised) which would mean thats less money she will get.

BIL is pissed because he wants to sell his fathers truck and buy a new one, actually Jim says he wants all new gear. Why? well because he gets all the gear from the business and he wants stuff that cost alot of money. It doesn't matter that the truck his father drives is his pride and joy, who cares its not worth enough money.

If you ask me they both want to stop worrying as I think other SIL will be left with most of it from MIL anyway. James isn't worried he says he doesn't want anything, he wants to feel that he got everything we have through our/(his at the moment) hard work. Oh shit there will be shit fights when they do pass away, they are all selfish people.

To good to be true

Yes I was right, it was to good to be true. The work was going to get us ahead but MIL doesn't want that to happen. She wants us to have to rely on her. Well sorry I would rather go bankrupted before I would ever ask her for any type of help.

She informed James yesterday that he is only being paid wages for this work. He got the work for them, he took time out of his Saturday that should have been spent with us to go look at the job. He is the one doing all the dealing with the guy. But hey who cares they are taking all the money, we get not even 1/5 of the money. Oh and if you work a public holiday you don't get any more money because you are working for family. Funny how it works one way but not the other way.

STUPID STUPID STUPID!!!

IL only grandparents when they feel like it!

So Yesterday I posted about easter with the good family, the bad family DIDN'T EVEN BOTHER or WANT TO see the kids. I am sooooo pissed!!! FIL was even here to drop James off from work but just drove away, didn't even give us time to go out and see him. AND in the morning when they had to pick James up for work MIL didn't come instead she sent SIL (with whom she does everything with). SIL gave the boys an easter present but they didn't even bother to come see the boys. They don't care one bit about our kids. James has said it time and time again, yet he runs around and does everything they say.

Like this morning he took Zack down there to keep them happy. She gave Zack the showbag she bought him that she has had for a week but hasn't bothered to bring it to him and has been waiting for us to take him down there (prob because she doesn't want to see me). BUT what does Ashton get NOTHING and this is a BIG PET HATE of mine. They play favourites and are not afraid to show it. Everyone knows who the favourite child is. Who the favourite grandchild is and then who is the prefered sibling in each family. Yes at the moment it doesn't matter much because Ash is so young but soon enough it will and I will NOT have it. If she doesn't want to get something for Ash she doesn't get anything for Zack. I have seen it happen with my nieces and its horrible.

IL arrrgghhh

Guess what I have been suffering from since 1pm today. Yes you guessed right. Bloody SIL!!!! Not happy at all Jan!!!

I was so looking forward to going out for dinner for my dads birthday and actually being able to eat something since my gall bladder has gone. BUT nooooo I still couldn't eat anything bc of the bloody IL's. They will be the death of me.

Are you Stupid

Oh they drive me insane. James says don't get cranky with me I didn't know. But lets face it if he got cranky with them and told them off just once, he would know. Zack has spent a day and a half down there with the IL's bc his cousins are up as I have posted. I said something to James about them not coming here. oh he goes I found out today why SIL hasn't been to our place. I go why and his answer was because SIL has bad diarrhea and doesn't want to give Ashton it. Which is good, BUT instead they insist on asking Zack to go down there and they tell us now after Zacks been going down there. So what I suppose its ok to give it to Zack to give to Ashton. Yeah that sounds like a bloody good idea! Arrrgghhh!

Why do I have to be the bad guy?

I HATE THIS!!! Why do I have to agree to things that I don't. Our son does not have hysterical fits about not wanting to go anywhere, instead of the IL's. Yes it doesn't happen every time but it does at least 50% of the time, actually probably more than that. So why should he have to go if he gets himself into that state when it is so out of character for him. It breaks my heart and I just want to say to James if he doesn't want to go then why should he have to. Yes I know that sometimes you have to do things you don't want to, but this is something he doesn't have to do. He was down there all day yesterday. His cousins are up so he should want to go down there to see them, that is special. It can not be very good down their.

Then James starts on him well if you don't go down you don't go to other nan and pops today. How is that FAIR?? He see's my parents every day and he still would rather go their then to his parents, something is up their. So then he says ok well you stay here, Zack settles down then a minute later he says put your shoes on we are going and he starts again. James is to scared of his family not to take him down their. Why are they more important than your own son. I was taking him to the car and he was saying don't make me mum, don't do it, don't put me in the car. It broke my heart. I feel like such a bad mum to make him just so James and I don't fight. This is horrible, bad mummy moment here and yes I know I have posted that if this happens again I will be saying to James he isn't going.

Yes I know this is jumbled but I am sooooo cranky with James, worried about my little boy and feel so bad that I don't stand up for Zack.

GET READY....Its holiday time, yay fun...NOT!!!!

Get ready for the vent post to come your way!! Its holidays which mean the trouble making SIL will be down. Fights will start! GREAT!! Oh how I love school holiday time. I wish we had money because if we did I would be leaving town while she is down and taking my kids with me.

S.T.U.P.I.D Husband

Sorry there is just not another word for him. He makes me so mad. Why does he have to be so...arrrrgghh! Why can't he tell his family where to go? They are so rude to him and just use him. He gets so angry and upset by them but he keeps going back and back for more.

He was ment to be working for them yesterday, put his work off (like usual...ah where does most of your money come from?????your work not work from your parents).THEN his father asks someone else to do the work so James was left high and dry. THEN I just found out today he travels an hour away (to what I though get stuff for his work although he did tell me yesterday most of it won't be ready till Thursday so he has to go back up) BUT he went to get things for his freaken father and the trucks thats all!!!!! S T U P I D!!!

He won't go and get work from this other person bc it would be cutting his family out of some work....ah they don't care about cutting you out of work and lets put it frankly they don't pay you correctly anyway. You winge about how much money we have but you let this happen continually, don't bother winging to me about it, its your own stupid fault.

It will happen!

It will happen! They will end up hating their nan (my MIL) when they get older. It is only a matter of time. My 2 nieces do and she has done it all on her own. Sorry evil MIL you can't go round calling children not so nice names, you can't talk poorly of their mother and other grandparents to them. When the children get older they realise, I don't have to put up with it and won't!! Does it make you feel like a big person when you do it???? Does it make you feel good to put a child down and make them feel bad about themselves??? Your son (my husband) is a mess because he doesn't think he is good enough bc of you. YOU MAKE ME SICK!!!!

And while I am at it, talking about my 2 gorgeous nieces, I may as well have a winge about their father (James' brother). No they are not going to want to come see and stay with you if you take them down you your evil mother. No they don't want to come see you when you are doing horrible things to their mother. No they don't want to sit at your house and do nothing. They are teenagers for god sake do something with them, take them to the movies, take them shopping ANYTHING. Don't go blaming their other grandmother and mother for brainwashing them. They are teenagers, they know things that go on, they have a mind of there own and use it. If you were a nice person to them they might want to see you.

IL's you make me sick and make me worry about my poor kids having to have anything to do with you! I wish James would delete them from his life. I know he never will and I can't ask him too. No matter how horrible of thing they do to us. He has no guts!

It all evens out.....uh how????

James much to my disliking often works for his parents as well as his own business. I have started plotting all his hours on the calendar to make sure he gets paid for the days he works. Does he get paid fairly hell no! This is how my so lovely (not) MIL does it:
- $200 a day
- but if he only works a few hours 3-5 he gets $50
- but if he works 16 hours he still gets only $200
- If he works public holidays (12 hours mind you) sorry no you are working for family you don't get double time (arrr how bout helping your sons family who has alot less money then you, you have 10 times the about of money we have)

I was saying to James about how if he only works a few hours he only get $50 but if he works alot of hours he doesn't get any extra and he said his mum says it works out even. UMMMMM uh HOW? maybe if you got $200 for only working a few hours yes (but still probably not since you work many more big hour days then little hour days)

So much for looking out for your family hey. Lovely MIL only cares for herself and just so desperately wants us to fail and have to ask her for money. Well I would rather have my nails pulled out with pliers then ask you for anything!!!!!!!!