To good to be true

Yes I was right, it was to good to be true. The work was going to get us ahead but MIL doesn't want that to happen. She wants us to have to rely on her. Well sorry I would rather go bankrupted before I would ever ask her for any type of help.

She informed James yesterday that he is only being paid wages for this work. He got the work for them, he took time out of his Saturday that should have been spent with us to go look at the job. He is the one doing all the dealing with the guy. But hey who cares they are taking all the money, we get not even 1/5 of the money. Oh and if you work a public holiday you don't get any more money because you are working for family. Funny how it works one way but not the other way.

STUPID STUPID STUPID!!!

IL only grandparents when they feel like it!

So Yesterday I posted about easter with the good family, the bad family DIDN'T EVEN BOTHER or WANT TO see the kids. I am sooooo pissed!!! FIL was even here to drop James off from work but just drove away, didn't even give us time to go out and see him. AND in the morning when they had to pick James up for work MIL didn't come instead she sent SIL (with whom she does everything with). SIL gave the boys an easter present but they didn't even bother to come see the boys. They don't care one bit about our kids. James has said it time and time again, yet he runs around and does everything they say.

Like this morning he took Zack down there to keep them happy. She gave Zack the showbag she bought him that she has had for a week but hasn't bothered to bring it to him and has been waiting for us to take him down there (prob because she doesn't want to see me). BUT what does Ashton get NOTHING and this is a BIG PET HATE of mine. They play favourites and are not afraid to show it. Everyone knows who the favourite child is. Who the favourite grandchild is and then who is the prefered sibling in each family. Yes at the moment it doesn't matter much because Ash is so young but soon enough it will and I will NOT have it. If she doesn't want to get something for Ash she doesn't get anything for Zack. I have seen it happen with my nieces and its horrible.

IL arrrgghhh

Guess what I have been suffering from since 1pm today. Yes you guessed right. Bloody SIL!!!! Not happy at all Jan!!!

I was so looking forward to going out for dinner for my dads birthday and actually being able to eat something since my gall bladder has gone. BUT nooooo I still couldn't eat anything bc of the bloody IL's. They will be the death of me.

Are you Stupid

Oh they drive me insane. James says don't get cranky with me I didn't know. But lets face it if he got cranky with them and told them off just once, he would know. Zack has spent a day and a half down there with the IL's bc his cousins are up as I have posted. I said something to James about them not coming here. oh he goes I found out today why SIL hasn't been to our place. I go why and his answer was because SIL has bad diarrhea and doesn't want to give Ashton it. Which is good, BUT instead they insist on asking Zack to go down there and they tell us now after Zacks been going down there. So what I suppose its ok to give it to Zack to give to Ashton. Yeah that sounds like a bloody good idea! Arrrgghhh!

Why do I have to be the bad guy?

I HATE THIS!!! Why do I have to agree to things that I don't. Our son does not have hysterical fits about not wanting to go anywhere, instead of the IL's. Yes it doesn't happen every time but it does at least 50% of the time, actually probably more than that. So why should he have to go if he gets himself into that state when it is so out of character for him. It breaks my heart and I just want to say to James if he doesn't want to go then why should he have to. Yes I know that sometimes you have to do things you don't want to, but this is something he doesn't have to do. He was down there all day yesterday. His cousins are up so he should want to go down there to see them, that is special. It can not be very good down their.

Then James starts on him well if you don't go down you don't go to other nan and pops today. How is that FAIR?? He see's my parents every day and he still would rather go their then to his parents, something is up their. So then he says ok well you stay here, Zack settles down then a minute later he says put your shoes on we are going and he starts again. James is to scared of his family not to take him down their. Why are they more important than your own son. I was taking him to the car and he was saying don't make me mum, don't do it, don't put me in the car. It broke my heart. I feel like such a bad mum to make him just so James and I don't fight. This is horrible, bad mummy moment here and yes I know I have posted that if this happens again I will be saying to James he isn't going.

Yes I know this is jumbled but I am sooooo cranky with James, worried about my little boy and feel so bad that I don't stand up for Zack.

It all evens out.....uh how????

James much to my disliking often works for his parents as well as his own business. I have started plotting all his hours on the calendar to make sure he gets paid for the days he works. Does he get paid fairly hell no! This is how my so lovely (not) MIL does it:
- $200 a day
- but if he only works a few hours 3-5 he gets $50
- but if he works 16 hours he still gets only $200
- If he works public holidays (12 hours mind you) sorry no you are working for family you don't get double time (arrr how bout helping your sons family who has alot less money then you, you have 10 times the about of money we have)

I was saying to James about how if he only works a few hours he only get $50 but if he works alot of hours he doesn't get any extra and he said his mum says it works out even. UMMMMM uh HOW? maybe if you got $200 for only working a few hours yes (but still probably not since you work many more big hour days then little hour days)

So much for looking out for your family hey. Lovely MIL only cares for herself and just so desperately wants us to fail and have to ask her for money. Well I would rather have my nails pulled out with pliers then ask you for anything!!!!!!!!